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10 THINGS NOT TO DO AT A FUNERAL10 THINGS NOT TO DO AT A FUNERALHave you heard the one about the woman who brought her wedding photos to her ex-husband's funeral? Or how about the one about the fight that broke out right in front of the casket? Actually, you'd be surprised at how often fights take place at funerals.Proper funeral etiquette is really all about common sense and good manners. To give yourself a refresher, take a look at 10 Things NOT to Do at a Funeral.While you're at it, forward it on to that unpredictable friend or relative who could use a manners tune-up before the next family funeral.Copyright 2016 Funeralwise, LLC.All Rights Reserved. DONT BE LATE.There is an old saying that if you are on time you are late. This is a good rule to follow when attending a funeral. Try to arrive early so that you can get settled well before the service begins.You certainly don't want to interrupt the proceedings by having to look for a seat. If you do arrive late, enter quietly and discreetly find a seat in the back. 11/10Copyright 2016 Funeralwise, LLC.All Rights Reserved. Dont dress for a club, party, or the beach.True, the rules for funeral dressing are much more relaxed than they used to be, but you still need to use common sense when deciding what to wear. The key word here is respect. Not just respect for yourself, but respect for the loved one you are saying goodbye to. Save the flip-flops for the beach and the sparkles for the club. Choose something tasteful and make it work.22/10Copyright 2016 Funeralwise, LLC.All Rights Reserved. DONT LET YOUR PHONE RING, CHIME, OR DING.Weve all been thereyou're in a quiet place like a church or a theater and a phone goes off. Even worse, its your phone! Be sure to mute your ringer before you enter the service. If, heaven forbid, your phone does go off, quickly silence the ringer and step outside to take the call.33/10Copyright 2016 Funeralwise, LLC.All Rights Reserved. DONT TEXT, SURF, OR OTHERWISE BE GLUED TO YOUR CELLPHONE.Sure, there could be an emergency where you have to be reached, but it's highly unlikely there will be anything so important it cant wait until the service is over.You are here to honor someone you cared about and were connected to. Give them your undivided attention. You won't get another chance to do so.44/10Copyright 2016 Funeralwise, LLC.All Rights Reserved. DON'T FORGET THE PURPOSE OF THE OCCASION.If you've never lost a loved one, you may not understand the wide range of emotions the family is experiencing. This may leave you confused about what to do, what to say, and how to behave.You can take your cue from the family with regard to specific behavior. Just keep in mind that you're there to pay your respects to the deceased and his or her family. If you are respectful and courteous, you'll be fine.55/10Copyright 2016 Funeralwise, LLC.All Rights Reserved. DONT CAUSE A SCENE.Dont feel guilty about saying or doing something that causes a loved one to cry or crying yourself. Crying is healthy. If, however, you find yourself weeping uncontrollably (youre causing a scene or making other mourners uncomfortable), it is polite to excuse yourself until you regain control. 66/10Copyright 2016 Funeralwise, LLC.All Rights Reserved. DONT IGNORE YOUR NOISY CHILD (OR ADULT, FOR THAT MATTER)Before bringing a child to a funeral, think about whether or not they might be disruptive during this type of occasion. If they are very young, the grief displayed during the service may be upsetting to them. Some children, like adults, may respond to grief with humor or behavioral issues. Should uncomfortable behavior take place, quickly and quietly step out of the service.If an adult in your party is not behaving in an appropriate manner, a quiet reminder of the situation will probably do the trick.77/10Copyright 2016 Funeralwise, LLC.All Rights Reserved. DONT SAY STUPID STUFF.While you still want to be yourself, it's always smart to think about what you say before you say it. This is especially true if you are talking or telling a story about the deceased.Make sure that the content you are covering is appropriate for the context. The last thing you want to do is embarrass or cause pain for someone who is close to the deceased.88/10Copyright 2016 Funeralwise, LLC.All Rights Reserved. DONT FORGET THAT ITS NOT ABOUT YOU.You are attending the funeral to support the family and pay your respects. You are not there to draw attention to yourself. While it's perfectly understandable to be upset and emotional, the last thing the loved ones need is to have to attend to a visitor who is disruptive.If you are overwhelmed with emotions, step outside until you can compose yourself. Express your sympathy to the grieving but avoid talking at length about how the death is affecting you. Be sensitive to everyone who is attending. Dont make the funeral all about you.99/10Copyright 2016 Funeralwise, LLC.All Rights Reserved. DON'T BE CARELESS WHEN TAKING SELFIES, SNAPS, OR INSTAGRAMS.There are still places where it's taboo to take photos and a funeral service is one of these. While this may be the first time the family has been in one place for a long-time, wait until after the service is over to try to get a shot. You may find an appropriate time during the repast (if there is one) or you can do it after the graveside service.ALWAYS be aware of what is behind and around you when you snap that photo. You don't want to inadvertently catch something inappropriate or someone at a bad time.1010/10Copyright 2016 Funeralwise, LLC.All Rights Reserved. Visit the Funeralwise.com complete Guide to Funeral Etiquette for more information on what to do at a funeral. Funeralwise.com is your source for "Everything You Need to Know About Funerals." We feature extensive information on funeral-related subjects including funeral planning, funeral customs, funeral etiquette, and grief support.https://www.funeralwise.com/Copyright 2016 Funeralwise, LLC.All Rights Reserved.