100 Ways to Live a Better Life
100 Ways To Live A Better LifePosted on Aug 22, 2009 in Getting Things Done Personal Development Relationships & Society Spirituality & Beliefs Success & Wellness by Dragos Roua326 Comments Tags: commitment, evolution, Personal DevelopmentYou dont like your life? Change it! Change your life for the better! Dont have any clue on how to do it? Heres a list of 100 ways in which you can improve your life. Feel free to add yours in the comments. This post is a response from a challenge I got from from Mike King in this great post 100 Ways To Be A Better Leader, which in turn got inspired by this one Tackle Any Issue With A List Of 100 , from Luciano Passuello. [Later edit: you may also be interested in this sequel 100 Ways To Screw Up Your Life. [ Update: There is an ebook based on this! Go ahead and read the post, or scroll down to the end of it for more details! ] Without further ado, lets go.1. Accept Your MistakesYoure human. We, humans, are making mistakes. Accept what you did wrong and try to do better next time. No need to punish yourself forever. In fact, accepting your mistakes is the only way to make them disappear.2. Accept Your Friends MistakesMaybe you got hurt by somebody. Happens. Just accept it and deal with it. People are making mistakes and if you can accept that for yourself, accept it for your friends too. In the end, all you need from them is their love.3. Create A New HabitWere doing a lot of stuff on autopilot. Try to integrate in this category new things you want to attract into your life. Habits are powerful. Harness their energy for your own good. Start by creating a habit in 15 days.4. Build Self DisciplineDont wait for other people to impose discipline on you. Start early. Create your own discipline. Although it sounds a little bit harsh, self discipline is a facilitator for many things in your life. Its hard to get but great to have.5. Make New FriendsReach out. Dont be afraid. Establish new contacts. The worst thing that may happen to you is to be rejected. Well, if thats the case, move on. The reward of having true, long-lasting friendship is worth all the potential rejection.6. Get A New JobShaking your comfort zone will often create a lot of value in your life. If youre not satisfied with your job, just get a new one. The pitfall of not having money for a limited period of time is temporary, get over it.7. Start A New DietYou are, in a vast proportion, what you eat. Trying a new diet would often be the only needed change for a dramatic boost of your health and energy. Dont necessarily have to be raw food, or even vegetarian, whatever works for you.8. Keep A JournalWrite down you feelings, your ideas, your goals, your activity. Journaling is by far one of the most useful things Ive done to change my life for the best. It works in such a silent, yet effective way. All you need is pen and paper.9. Create And Keep A Morning PhraseWhatever you say to yourself in the morning, it will most likely come true during the day. Why not taking advantage of it? Create a simple morning phrase and say it to yourself first thing in the morning. Is that simple.10. Travel Far Away From Your HomeTraveling long distance is incredibly rewarding. Its so exciting and full with unknown events. I only recently started to travel really far away from my home, but I do wonder how could I ever made it until now without this.11. Learn To Take RisksYour life may be so boring and fade because err, you made it like this? When was the last time your tried something really difficult? When was the last time you challenged the odds doing something risky? Do it now.12. Start Your Own BusinessBe your own boss. Work your own hours. I know, it sounds so shallow, for you, who hate your job but still have to stay there because of that mortgage. Well, unless you make the first step, nothing is going to change. Thats for sure.13. Change Your Work SpaceClean up your desk. Re-arrange furniture. Add some color to that space. Make the place where you work really enjoyable. So enjoyable that work there wont be perceived as work anymore. It will be something you love to do.14. Learn A New LanguageChallenge your mind. Constantly. If youre going to do number 10, youre going to learn some new languages too. From my experience, learning a new language is a fantastic mind opener. Sometimes you dont even have to travel there.15. Find Reasons To AgreeRather than disagree. We have this mindset of competition which makes constantly arguing over things. Well, stop that. You dont have to force yourself into agreement, if its not the case, just trying to find some reasons will be enough.16. Pay Yourself FirstYou cant give something if you dont have it. You cant spread light onto others if you dont have light from within. You cant give wealth to others if you dont have it for yourself first. Make yourself a service and pay yourself first.17. Wake Up EarlyThis is not a habit, this is a lifestyle. Dont just wake up early without a purpose. Be early. Be there before others. Look for opportunities and embrace them. Waking up early means keeping your eye open to every available opportunity.18. Train Your FocusYour focus is in fact your reality. Use it wisely. Train it constantly for it will enhance your reality in ways you never imagined. Keep your focus sharp as a razor blade and be prepared to experience life in fantastic shapes and colors.19. Start A BlogOn whatever topic you want. Not only it will give you the opportunity to create something new and valuable but it will also bring new people into your life. Blogging is far more than a hype, is a personal development tool. A very good one.20. Write An EbookYou may think you dont have a talent, but thats completely wrong. And the easiest way to prove it wrong is to start writing an ebook. Any ebook. You pick the topic. It might be something you know or want to learn about. Write it. Its fun.21. Be Better, Not PerfectStriving too much for perfection will ruin your life. It will wipe out all those little imperfections which are making you human. Being better, on the other side, is rewarding. Look back at the yesterday you and just say: Im better!22. Stop Self SabotageYoull be surprised by how much of a burden you can be to yourself. You are literally self sabotaging. Most of the time, unconsciously. If you have a long history of failure behind, that could mean youve become your worst enemy. Stop it.23. Find Reasons To Love Your LifeMaybe life wasnt fair with you. Yes, I know, Ive been there: life is never fair. But its fantastic. Its unique, unrepeatable, one of a kind, beautiful, simple, challenging, sweet, hard Just take a step back and find reasons to love your life.24. Try Something NewMaybe youre sad because youre bored. Have you ever thought about that? Just reach out and try something completely new. Go for a challenge, learn a new sport, pick a different restaurant or go for a comedy movie (if youre the drama type). Just try it.25. Avoid FightingFighting is the biggest energy leak of your being. Trying to prove another guy wrong is so against your true nature. Youre here to acknowledge lifes wonders, not to prove anybodys wrong. Theyre not wrong, just have different opinions. And thats part of life.26. Stop Wasting Your PowerAre you doing something that you think you shouldnt be doing right now? Well, thats wasted power. Thats meaningless stuff promoted to the honor of being a part of your life. How long are you going to approve this? Why wasting power?27. Learn To IgnoreI think they should be teaching this one in schools. Were so focused on so many topics and think we have to do so many stuff, that our life is literally clogged with stuff. Its good to do stuff, but learning to ignore stuff is much better.28. Experiment GratitudeWhen was the last time you said thank you? With all your heart? Everybody knows that an attitude of gratitude is the key to success, but almost nobody practices it. Well, start by experience gratitude first, and take it from there.29. Recycle Your AggressionDont throw it away, recycle it! Use it for something you really want! Call out those wild forces inside of you and put them to work. Aggression is part of your being, so dont try to reject it, because it will only grow stronger. Recycle your aggression.30. Release Your GuardiansDont touch that! Dont eat that! Dont go for that opportunity! Those are the sentences you hear when going for something you really want. Those are your guardians, your mental constructs made to protect you. Release them, youll be much better off.31. Clean Up Your HouseIts fun. And its good for you. Make a habit out of cleaning up your house with joy and happiness. Whats outside is a mirror of whats inside. If your house is a mess, probably your internal life is a disaster. Neat that stuff, its easy.32. Write A Personal Mission StatementYoure here with a reason. No matter how small you feel now, how insignificant others may made you feel, you have a purpose. Take the time to write your personal mission statement. It will bring light and direction into your life.33. Dissolve Negative Opinions About YourselfWhatever you think you may do, its half of what you can really do. And thats because you have so many negative opinions about yourself. You can solve them. Just accept the fact that you have them and then start working on them.34. Build Different SkillsDont stop learning. Dont remain stuck in a single career, its boring and limiting. Learndifferent skills, possibly from completely unrelated fields. You never know when life will ask you to use them. Besides, its a lot of fun.35. Manage Your Time As You Manage Your MoneyHave you ever thought what would be if you would manage your time the same way youmanage your money? Just give it a try. See where you spend most of your time, what the return of investment is and how rich are you in time.36. ExerciseYou dont have to break the world record, or something. Just make sure you exercise constantly. It will make your body healthier and your mind clearer. Its also one of the simplest and most affordable ways to improve your life.37. Be A ParentHaving kids doesnt necessarily means youre a parent, and I know that very well. Being a parent will surely change your life forever: filling it with unconditional, life lasting love, care and warm feelings. Youll live in love. And learn.38. Throw Away One Object A Day From Your HouseMaybe your life is breathing so hard just because its suffocated by objects. Learn to let them go. You may donate them, give to charity or simply throw them away, but dont let the clutter stay in your way. Youre not the objects you have.39. Read A Book Per WeekOr, alternatively, a fine selection of blogs. That will keep your mind alert and your focus steady. Reading is like good food for your brain, without it, it will go lazy, obese and unresponsive. But with the proper food it can become your best friend.40. Start A Monthly ChallengeBeing it physical, mental or social. Intend to acquire something new in your life in 30 days. Improve your health using new methods, or your relationships by starting new things together. Make it count. And count on it.41. Call An Old FriendIts enlightening to meet somebody you havent talk to in the last years. Go right now and call an old friend, or a relative. It will bring up memories and it will create new opportunities. Dont let the dust settle on your relationships.42. Follow A CoincidenceWell, there arent any coincidences, I lied. Everything has a purpose. If you witness something which may seem like a coincidence, then youre very lucky, you just got a sign. Follow it with trust, it will lead you well.43. Play A GameAny game. Just play. Like a child. Allow yourself to do something just for fun, without any goals, pressures or deadlines. Will make you understand that everything is a game. Sometimes a little bit harder, but still a game..44. Forgive Somebody Out Of The BlueDont hold that grudge for that past insult. Grudges are heavy and tend to make the take off for a new life a little bit difficult. The longer you hold that grudge, the more difficult the take off will be. Forgiveness will lift you off.45. Stop Solving The Wrong ProblemsYou are not here to witness the bad things in your life. Nor the performance in itself. You are here to enjoy a journey. To become aware, To grow. So, stop solving the wrong problem and focus on what really matters.46. Make Peace With An Old EnemyThats more than forgiveness, thats the actual process of reversing a situation. Make peace with somebody. Turn it into your friend. Im not saying this is easy, I know it first hand. But I also know it works. Enemies count down, friends count up.47. Make A Promise To A Close Person And Keep ItIt doesnt have to be something big. It doesnt have to be for someone special. It doesnt have to be difficult also. But it has to be a commitment to somebody. Just reach out, make a promise, keep it and then enjoy the feeling after.48. Break Up With A Person You Dont Really LikeMaybe youre friend with somebody just by habit, chemistry being dead for a long time now. Just break it up. Tell him. Ok, lets unfriend us, this will not work. It will bring up something you thought you lost it long ago: courage.49. Get A Thing You Wanted For A Long TimeBut you didnt had time or money to get it. Just go out and get it. Not only it will boost your self-respect, but it will also free your desire channel, which may be a little bit clogged by having one and only one desire for such a long time.50. Stop Being JudgmentalWith others AND with you. Excessive criticism will kill your enthusiasm. And if you think this post is something you shouldnt read in the first place, then, my friend, you really are judgmental. Lighten up. Accept life as it is.51. Change Your WardrobeYou dont know how much are you tied to what you wear. If youre on the gray loving side, put some color in your clothes. If youre on the black and white, try some gradients. Of course, your clothes are not you. Hence, theyre so easy to change, right?52. Smile At Least 10 Times A DayAnd I mean it, start to count that. Smiling is a sign of honesty and power. Everybody can cry over a disaster but only the most powerful can take bitterness with a smile. Exercise that power. And then try to go for 20 times a day.53. Burn Some Old MemoriesMaybe the notebook from your 7th grade? Maybe the teenage dumb poetry you wrote? Whatever it might be, break up. It might be difficult, but it might also be a sign that youre so attached to the past that you cant advance in your life anymore.54. Plant A TreeOr take care of a flower. Do it for at least several months. It will give you a sense of potential. Seeing that tree or that flower growing will make your self-confidence go up. If a flower can make it, why cant I? Of course you can, now do it!55. Move To Another Town Or CountryMaybe its time to change the environment? Take the plunge, move over. Pick another town or even another country. Like all the good stuff, it might be pretty difficult in the beginning, but you can bet it would shake everything really good!56. Join A New GroupGo to a bikers meeting. Or, if youre not a biker, to a toastmaster meeting. Join a group and see how you fit in. It will help if the group will be focused on some of your passions, of course. It will reveal a lot about your social skills.57. Stop Watching TVTelevision evolved a lot from the balanced news provider it was in the beginning up to the current manipulating tool. Just stop watching it for a week. And then for a month. Meanwhile, assess your psychological progress. You may be amazed.58. Start A Totally Unexpected HobbyStart making trains out of matches. Raise cobras. Put tiny vessels into tiny bottles. Do whatever it takes to move your mind from your problems for a while. And if you can create something nice in the process, why not doing it?59. Randomly Hug A Stranger On The StreetOk, this might be a little bit dangerous, but only if you think at it. If youre doing it, chances are that youre going to get your hug back. It will also help raising your adrenaline up to levels you never had for a very long time.60. Set Up A Surprise PartyFor your or for a friend. Its always good for your mood, even if or especially if youre down. Do a thematic one, invite friends and tell them to bring their friends. And then expect to meet new, wonderful persons. And of course, have fun.61. Go HikingDo it for at least one week-end. Nature is more powerful than our human created environment. We dont know how to channel the energy into our artificial habitats. If you want to recharge, go outside and stay in connection with the wilderness.62. Get A PetWhatever works for you, a bird, a guinea pig, a dog or a cat. It will keep you alert and it will cheer you up when youre down. Taking care of a pet is also easier if youre overwhelmed with human interaction. Even from a pet, love is still love.63. Write A Thank You LetterYou can send it or not, the real catch is to write it. Pick someone who helped you in the past. Start writing the letter and say everything you want to say to that person. It will make you understand what are you really grateful for in your life.64. Meditate DailyIts the easiest thing you can do. True mediation acts like a mind emptier, leaving you open to the whole flow of the sensations and experiences you would otherwise ignore. You dont even need a complicated technique, meditate as you see fit.65. Say Something Nice To SomebodyJust like that. Out of the blue. Pick an unknown person and say something nice. After the initial surprise youll be amazed by the unmasked joy and gratitude theyre expressing. Admit it: you would like that too, isnt it?66. Say Something Nice To YouOk, but if nobody is telling you nice things, why not start this yourself? Do it in whatever form you think its appropriate: send yourself emails, write in your calendar or leave yourself nice postits on the desk. With something nice just for you.67. When I Doubt, ImproviseBeing so scared for not knowing the answer, so nervous that you may screw thigns up I know the feeling, Ive been there too. Just go with the flow. Improvise. It will be so good for your unconscious mind. The real answer will be surprising.68. Dont Argue, Win Or LoseThis goes hand in hand with avoiding the fight, but its a little bit different. If you get caught in an argument, just accept that you can have only two outcomes from it: win or lose. Settle with one and just move on.69. Stop Faking Your LifeIts so easy to get caught in a flow of fakes. Society wants us to politely lie and you need to lie sometimes. Just stop it. Being authentic is the best thing you can do. No need to hide your sorrow, nor your joy. Theyre both part of life.70. Define GoalsAgain, that goes hand in hand with writing a personal mission but its more than that. Its the habit of clearly deciding and, subsequently, describing where you want to go. Do you have a goal? A passion, maybe? Go for it! And be verbose.71. Help OthersReach out and try to see if you can help others. You dont have to be a Samaritan, just go out there and support somebody. The biggest trick of helping is really surprising: although it seems youre giving, youre in fact receiving a lot more.72. Go SocialMingle, interact, go out. Get used to meet new people. Make this a habit and youll soon get used to do new things too. The goal is not to be the best networker in the world, but to be connected to as many energy sources as you can get.73. Spend Some Time AloneSubsequently, make sure you set aside enough time for your own. You dont necessarily need to recharge, but you need this time in order to get a new perspective. Stop for a while and look around. Where are you? Where do you want to be?74. Fix Something By YourselfGo fix a broken window, or a scratch on your car. Dont call for a specialist, get involved, see how you can have an impact on things around you. Work with your hands, prepare to sweat. It will instantly make you feel better.75. Create ValueMake things that others need too. Make something useful. Dont follow blind or outdated commitments, go for what really makes a change around you. Creating value is the core of your activity here and the only thing you really have to strive for.76. Do A Random Act Of KindnessDoesnt have to be in the form of a nice compliment this time. You dont even need to communicate it to the target person. Just do an incognito service to someone. See how this makes you feel. Think how many times you received that.77. One More SecondCreate the habit of looking at things for one more second. Spend one more second before taking an important decision. Delay something. Time will follow your intention and open some unexpected window for you. Slow it down a little.78. Understand What People Want From YouWhat you can do is not always what people want from you. Clearing that confusion alone could bring an immense relief to your life. You dont have to immediately provide what theyre wanting, but if you do, you may have some big surprises.79. Break An Old Bad HabitBreaking a bad habit is difficult. But breaking an old bad habit will free an incredible amount of time into your life. Quit smoking or stop talking on the phone for hours. Whatever you break, it will change your life for the best.80. Stop ComplainingComplaining is like an open invitation for troubles. The more you complain about something, the more of that something you invite into your life. Cut it out. You dont get any comfort out of complaining, only troubles.81. Reject What You Dont WantIts so simple, yet so underrated. Society wants us to complain even when we dont really like stuff. Like forcing us to smile when we dont find it funny. Allow yourself to walk away from something you dont like. Just do it!82. Being Is Better Than HavingToo much and too often we shape our lifes fulfillment degree to the amount we possess. The fundamental mistake. If youre doing it, stop it right now. Youre not what youre having. Being is so much better than having.83. Listen To Your CriticsThis one might be difficult in the beginning but once you get used to it its fantastic. You may find out a lot of stuff about yourself that you didnt know about. You think you are one kind of person, but others may disagree.84. Dont Take It PersonallyNever. Your world is shaped by your reaction to things, not by the things themselves. Dont get upset, dont think that somebody knows you enough to make right assumptions about you. Acknowledge and move on.85. LaughThis time is not about smiling. Its about laughing. Dont you ever miss another opportunity to laugh. Especially at yourself. The longer your laughing sessions, the shorter your misery ones. Looks like a nice deal, isnt it?86. Go With PassionDont let your rational mind stand in the way of your passion. If you found or at least felt, even occasionally something that thrills you, youre there. You dont need a confirmation on this from anybody. Go with your passion.87. Trust Your EmotionsDont underestimate your emotions. Or overestimate them. Your emotions are your feed-back system and for that they are very important. Trying to ignore your emotions is like depriving yourself from lights in a car running in the middle of the night.88. Live It Like A HolidayEver observed how nice you feel during your holiday? How light, joyful and authentic? Everything is just wonderful. Well, you are on a continuous holiday here. It starts with your birth and end with your death. Live it like a holiday.89. Make A Story Out Of ItDo you like a good story? I love it. Make everything in your life story-worthwhile. Make it as it would be a fantastic journey and you will be at all time the observer, the hero and the narrator. Create the story of your life.90. Stop Being A FollowerAdmiring is nice. But being admired is even better. Stop trying to fit in other peoples shoes. Find your own path. If that means breaking up completely your lifestyle, so be it. If you are like somebody else you cant be like yourself anymore.91. Watch Your BeliefsYour beliefs are not you. But they are shaping your life constantly. You have the power to change them at any point in your existence. But in order to do that, you must first start to observe them, to isolate them, to accept them.92. Stop LyingTo others and to yourself. Although it might ease a complicated situation, a lie is not good in the long run. The trick is that if youre telling a lie youre altering your reality. And a distorted reality will be impossible to handle.93. Stop Reacting To StuffAnd start acting on stuff. Initiate things. Start projects. Predict situations and be there before the hurricane hits. Reacting to stuff is a victim paradigm. Stop being a victim and start acting. Create your life instead of being the creation of others.94. Live TodayNot yesterday, not tomorrow. Go for what you can do today and leave yesterday behind for good. Its not here anymore. And tomorrow doesnt even exist yet, so why bother. All you have is today. Dont waste it.95. Expect The UnexpectedIf theres something unusual that happens to you, go for it. The unexpected is a signal of an opportunity. It will not always be nice, this unexpected, but whenever its around, magical things are happening. Wait for it. Praise for it.96. EnjoyLike being in joy. Like giving permission to yourself to extract joy from any situation youre in. Even if its bad. Or especially if its bad. Joy is everywhere, you just have to let it manifest through you. Dont resist joy. Dont reject it.97. Make Your Own RulesAnd stick with them. Go for what works for you, not the others. Go for what you want, not the others. Including me. Make your own system and be proud of it. You may upset some people in the process, but hey, thats life.98. LoveUnconditionally. Totally. Constantly. Restlessly. Love is the only glue that keeps your life running. You were born out of love and you carry it deep down in your being. Love is never about the others, its about you.99. Get Rid Of LabelsThings are what they are. Dont use labels anymore, use directly the things. Your notion of right and wrong are nothing but labels. In a different country your right might be wrong. Dont charge yourself with this unneeded burden.100. No RegretsRegretting something is another form of not accepting reality. What you can do about it now? Its gone. It doesnt exist anymore. Focus on what you can change: your present moment. Not yesterday, not tomorrow. Now. Live now.100 Ways To Screw Up Your LifePosted on Dec 2, 2009 in Personal Development Relationships & Society Success & Wellness byDragos Roua130 Comments Tags: life, Personal DevelopmentA couple of months ago I wrote a blog post about 100 Ways To Live A Better Life. The post got featured almost instantly on Delicious, Reddit and StumbleUpon. Since then, it gets a few hundreds hits every day and a new comment every once in while (although its more than 2 months old now). But re-reading it the other day I spotted a slight imbalance. Couldnt tell at first what it was, but it was an imbalance. Like a picture with too much pink. Then it hit me: life is not pink. Its rough and challenging and filled with tests and temptations. And this is what makes it beautiful, after all. Living a better life stems most of the time from making a lot of mistakes and learning from them, rather than from avoiding challenges. Better try and fail than isolate yourself in a sea of delusion and non-action. As pink as that sea might be. So, I realized I know at least 100 ways to screw up your life too. And I also realized that this list would make an honest companion to the first blog post. Like a mirror or something. Oh, and if you wonder, the following 100 ways to screw up your life were personally verified at some point in my life by yours truly. And now Im pretty happy about that . [Update: There is an ebook based on this. Go ahead and read the post, or scroll to the end of it for more info. ] Without further ado, lets start:1. Regret StuffFeel sorry about what happened to you. Spend time and energy on things that arent even there, but you feel are unsolved yet. Keep your focus on the past and ignore the present. This is what regrets do: they tie you down to things in the past that doesnt matter anymore. Well, you cant do anything about them anyway: accept and move on.2. Accept to Be Lied ToEven if you know youre lied. Accept to be told lies in the name of something bigger than you: a family, a career, anything. Eat it up every day while knowing the truth and still accepting that other, twisted reality, hoping at some point things will go better. They wont. And there is no such thing as something bigger than you.3. Stay in the Wrong PartnershipWrong partnerships may be both personal or professional. You may think its just temporary or even it might be good for you but youre just deluding yourself. Wrong partnerships are nothing but swamps: theyll slowly drag you down. If you dont get out of them the moment you realize theyre wrong for you, youll become one with the swamp.4. Succumb to AddictionsMake them bigger than you. Call it alcohol or just an addiction to fight. Call it work, as in workaholic, or eating much more than you need. Call it drugs or just an addiction to a person (co-dependence). Giving in to addictions is a conscious act of surrender. You accept to lose a battle. And then another one. Slowly, youll going to lose the war.5. Dream Without Taking ActionDaydreaming is good. It opens your heart to new universes and goals. But daydreaming without action is useless. Sitting on your fat ass while waiting for all your intentions to manifest, without taking the smallest action for moving things forward, wont change anything. Oh, sorry, it will change something: you ass will be fatter.6. Sleep More Than You NeedBecause youre too tired of doing the same stupid things again while youre awake. Or because youre avoiding your real life, searching for a shallow refuge under the pillow. And, of course, lose all the opportunities you could embrace while youre sleeping.Becoming an early riser, on the other hand, is more than often priceless.7. Play The Guilt CardIf you did something wrong, instead of a) assessing what was really wrong, b) learn the lesson and c) move on, play the guilt card. Feel guilty for all the bad things you did, until you start feeling guilty for all the things you did. Playing the guilt card is closely related to religion, but it can occur outside religion too. Just get over it. Guilt cant pay your rent.8. Victimize YourselfIf you lost something, act like youve lost everything. Be a victim. Ask for other peoples compassion. Play like every people you meet makes whatever omelet he wants from you. Victimizing yourself in exchange of compassion is far more common than you think. Its contagious too. Just remember you may lose a battle, but thats not making you a victim.9. Avoid IntrospectionAs difficult as it seems, every once in a while you should step back and interview yourself. Bite the bullet and ask yourself a bunch of tough questions. Better give a wrong answer now to a difficult question, but move on with your life, than ignoring whats going on with you and remain stuck. Introspection always pays forward.10. Work Harder Than You CanAnd ruin your health while pretending youre sacrificing for the good of the (fill in the blanks: family, friends, boss, career, planet). You have physical limits and usually thats a good thing. Breaking up your physical limits in the name of a stupid cause will screw up your life faster than you think. And for a long time. Work smarter, not harder.11. Dont PlayBecause its stupid, it wastes your time and energy and it doesnt give you any measurable results. Dont play and lose the only divine thing that you get for free. Dont play and let your inner child become a gray adult with heavy topics to discuss every minute. Dont play and watch how your life gets seriously screwed up.12. Stop LearningBecause you already know too much or because what you will learn will not give you any competitive advantage in the narrow niche youre playing now. Stop learning because theres so much to discover that you wont cover it even in a dozen lifetimes. Stop learning because it gets so difficult and it takes you out of your comfort zone. Yeah, why bother? Screw it!13. GossipTalk bad about other people. Thats a 100% sure way to screw up your relationships, your social credibility, your personal values. The way you talk about people often determines the way you act towards them. Gossip is a heavy weapon and, no matter how skilled you get at using it, it always destroys its owner. Do it often. It will accelerate the decay process.14. Aim To Be FamousAnd do all the stupid things other people expect from famous people in the process. Beg for attention, hunt the hype, dress like a douche. Cheat your friends for the sake of some media visibility or discard your personal life. Being famous is not at all a guarantee that you will automatically live a fulfilling life. Most of the time, the opposite is true.15. Follow The MoneyWhile this could be a very precious advice for an entrepreneur, living your entire life in a continuous chase of money will most likely screw you up. Hunting money is difficult because money is a very volatile concept. A big part of it lives only in your mind. And money can only buy things. See what you can do with a bank check in a morgue. Pretty much nothing.16. Dont Make FriendsStay alone. Dont connect. Because youre ashamed of something in your behavior or look. Or because you think youre too good for them. Whatever the reason, just stay away for people, and, by all means, dont make new friends. And you will get the most exquisite place at your own drama movie, in which, you guessed, your life eventually gets screwed.17. Fight Your EnemiesWhich comes down to first make and then keep some enemies. Which is all round stupid. Enemies are a mental construct. You cant have enemies unless youre ready to give away your power to somebody else. Nobody can really hurt you unless you allow this to happen. Fighting your enemies is in fact feeding your enemies.18. Be LazyLike in not doing any type of work. Totally avoiding responsibilities. Waiting for others to do stuff for you. Staying away from anything that might remotely put you in the position to actually do something helpful for other people. Laziness is a disease in itself. Allowing it to spread into your life is like inviting an illness to take over your body.19. Dont Take RisksLive a cozy life and always keep it into your comfort zone. Dont get out of there. Taking risks is well, risky. You can get hurt. You can lose your money. You can fail. But taking risks is also the only way you can grow. There is no real growth without risk. There is no victory without even starting a battle. There is no better life without challenges.20. Be SelfishDo things for yourself and for yourself only. Act like youre the only one in the Universe. Dont share anything. Aim to be the richest, most powerful and influential person in the world. Selfishness is an incredibly effective limitation factor. You will become the richest person in the world, if you really want to, only your world will become incredibly small: youll be its only inhabitant.21. GambleStart fighting with randomness. Hope that one lucky hit will end up all your troubles. Gambling is really funny as an entertainment activity, but once you make it the core of your life, youre sinking into a swamp of despair. You cant use gambling to solve your problems, youre simply not designed like this. Youre designed to create and enjoy the process.22. Be Stuck in a Job You HateBecause it pays well. Or because youre too scared to look for another one. Or because somebody told you when you were a kid that you have to have a job. You spend more than half of your lifetime at your job so if you chose to stay in a job you hate, youll surely end up hating your entire life. In my experience, it happens rather sooner than later.23. Dont ListenPretend you know everything. Or act like you dont need any advice, suggestion or feed-back. Dont listen to your partner, to your friends, to your intuition. And lose all the new perspectives you can get, all the fresh answers you never thought of and all the opportunities that could arise. Dont listen and be prepared to face failure really fast.24. Lie To PeopleBecause you want to get something from them. Because you find pleasure in deceiving them. Because you think its just an innocent play. Or because you cant stand telling the truth. Lying to other people is an addiction because it gives you a temporary feeling of relief: you passed this challenge, now you can move on. Only you cant, really.25. Lie To YourselfDont believe what youre feeling or experiencing. Avoid facing the truth and delude yourself. Live in a land of fantasies and hope everything will be great (or worse, if youre a pessimistic by nature). Just dont listen to your inner voice and succumb to social pressure, bad habits or negative emotions. Lying to yourself is a suicidal activity.26. Dont Ask For HelpAnd live like on a desert island, isolated and alone. Its ok to ask for help every once in a while. Its ok to be taken care of every once in a while. Just dont make a habit out of it and youll be fine. But remember: you wont be able to cope with everything in your life just by yourself. Youll get by with a little help from your friends.27. Dont ExerciseNo need to become an athlete but if youre not taking care of your physical body, it wont take care of you either. Avoiding physical activities, as small or insignificant they may seem, it will slowly degrade your physical performance and make you prone to illness. And if you just think how easy it is to take a walk in the park28. Eat JunkFrom the same category as the one above: feed yourself crap and youll produce crap. And Im not talking about the residual crap were all producing in the process, Im talking about the direct result of the process. Were very much influenced by what we eat and any imbalance in this area will be visible instantly. Junk food creates junk life.29. Dont Spend Time in NatureWere pretty far from creating a perfectly balanced artificial living environment. Our cities are sucking up our power instead of feeding us energy. Were still children of the nature. Avoiding nature in the name of a super-civilized lifestyle will subtly deprive us from one of the most forceful sources of energy, slowly weakening our strengths.30. Dont Clean Up Your HouseHow not cleaning up your house can screw up your life? Well, it will not screw you directly, unless you chose to have a date with the love of your life in your messy house, in which case your chances will dramatically decrease. But, generally speaking, it will set up the field for other bad things to happen, like procrastination or just plain, old laziness.31. ProcrastinatePostpone tasks. Avoid doing stuff. Daydream. Procrastinate and delay everything you have to do. That will surely help screw up your professional relationships, your personal life and your self esteem. If you want to became a master in procrastination, heres a small tutorial which will even help you procrastinate in a more productive way.32. Spend More Than You Can AffordBecause you dont have any idea what money is or just because you want to keep up with the Joneses. Spending more than you can afford will not only sink you in debt, but it will make it really difficult to get out of there. Its not how much you have but how much you are. Not to mention that spending more than you have will never make you rich.33. Limit Your Social LifeStop going out. Isolate yourself in the safety of a job, a limited family life or a perpetual and meaningless daydreaming. Were social animals, even though sometimes were not that good at it. If you stop going out youre cutting up your feed-back loop, slowly going down in a spiral of self-sufficiency and mediocrity. Get out, see people!34. Chose a Career Instead of a LifestyleToo often were planning our life career-centric. Were making all the necessary steps foracquiring skills, titles and diplomas. We try to fit in a more or less guaranteed career. What we forget in the process is that a career is not identical with our life. At the end of the day we often ask ourselves who was the person who talked with our mouth35. Treat People Like AssetsInstead of treating them like human beings, with their own lives and expectations. This is especially true if you live by the one above, judging your own life expectations in business terms. People are not assets, like a computer. They have lives and hopes and ups and downs. Assets are dead, people are alive, with all the good or bad that comes with being alive.36. Chose (And Stay In) The Wrong FriendshipsYou know theyre the wrong ones when you have to do things you dont really want, just to be accepted in their circle. You know, drinking your life every night or just dressing up in a certain way. A real friend will never put any condition on your relationship. If you dont have the courage to step out of this bad circle, expect the circle to eat you.37. Reject CriticismYou dont know everything in the world. So, instead of rejecting criticism, you should accept it. Maybe they wont be always right about you, but at least youll have a feed-back loop. Many people fear criticism but in my experience this fear is not justified. Be thankful for your critics, it means youre still worth something. And it also means youre improvable.38. Buy Your RelationshipsSubstitute the warmness of a normal relationship with the practical coldness of money. While this will certainly ease your day to day living, it will deeply affect your emotional level. Many marriages are putting so much strain on this aspect that they succeed in destroying any trace of true emotional bond between the partners. Just live and let live.39. Follow The RulesEat everything they feed you, talk like they teach you and, by all means, dont swear when you feel like. Just dont exercise your own choosing abilities and youll soon become a perfect social puppet, ready to be manipulated with invisible strings by the first puppeteer who finds you. Following rules should always be backed up with your own judgment.40. Dont Manage Your MoneyWe still live in a world where money plays an important role. Several generations from now maybe money wont be necessary, but, until then, you should be able to manage it now. That means making day to day living up to investing or building a lifestyle. Just pay attention to it and manage it, that enough will save you from some nasty troubles.41. Promise More Than You Can DoBecause youre ashamed to admit you cant do more, or because you hope things will magically get better. Promising more than you can cope with is often perceived as a way to push the destiny to obey your wishes. I think its the other way around. The more your promise without cover, the more you piss off your fate.42. Dont Keep Your PromisesNot keeping promises is another way to say to the world: Im not a reliable person, please go away from me. I may be very good at promises and make you believe I can offer a lot, but instead, Im just lying to you. Better not promise at all than not keeping your promises.43. OverdoImprove where theres no improvement needed. Strive to do things nobody really wants. Do more than you have to just to show off. Many people think that going way over what they are expecting to, in order to impress or just hunt for a promotion, will make their life easier. Too bad that when you get that promotion youll be too dried out to enjoy.44. QuitQuit doing what youre doing best. Quit your friends when they need you. Quit your partner because you got bored. Just quit. Instead of staying there and do what you have to do, just run away, cover your eyes and pretend it never happened. Being a quitter is one of the most relaxing ways of living. Its also the safest way to screw up your life too.45. Say Only YesBe submissive even if you dont agree. Accept others around just because youre too scared to tell them they are annoying.. And, by all means, dont you upset anyone. Saying only yes its incredibly disempowering. You cant say yes to anything in your life. At some point youll have to disagree. Be happy about it: its a healthy thing.46. Say Only NoBe a naysayer. Disagree no matter what. Tell them you know better. Or just dont accept anything around you because you have such high standards. Playing the No card every time will create higher and higher walls around you. Being a naysayer will be as bad as being a yes-man. Balance your Nos and Yess with your own judgment.47. Be A Control FreakTry to control everything in your life. Your happiness. Other people happiness. Your colleagues or employees. Your emotions. The weather. Being a control freak will eliminate any trace of authenticity in your life. It could drastically improve your discipline and self-awareness, but without authenticity youre as screwed as a robot.48. Walk Your Life In Somebody Elses ShoesBe somebody else. Chose a role model and stick with it until the boundaries of your own personality are melting and you dont know who you really are. When you answer you will speak his answer. When you chose, you will make his choices. Chose to be somebody else and leave your true life behind. While totally screwing it, of course.49. Be CheapTry to bargain everything in your life. Negotiate while shopping up to the point every salesman will be pissed off and give you stuff for free. Do this for your relationships too. And, in the end, without even noticing, youll become cheap too. Things of value requires value. Looking only for cheap relationships will lower your market value too.50. Abuse OthersOveruse. Dry out. Obtain things by twisting people arms. If possible, make it in the name of a higher cause. Take other people resources. Doesnt make any difference if the resources are emotional or material, just take them without asking. Only because you can. And before youll know it youll become the first target of your own abusive behavior.51. Accept To Be AbusedBe somebody elses toy. Because you cant do better. Or because you deserve it. Or because this is how it is and it cant be changed. I know you wont agree but accepting abuse is on the same vibration with abusing. Although in certain contexts it seems you cant escape being abused, you always have a choice. Always.52. Try To Please EverybodyAnd lose every single trace of authenticity and originality you have. There are billions of people on this Earth and during your lifetime you will meet several dozens of thousands. How can you possibly imagine you will be able to please each and every one of them? Unless all you need from this life is a perfectly numb mediocrity.53. Feed The TrollsAt some point in your life you will meet the trolls. People who live to disagree no matter what. People who make a living by talking bad about other people. If youre up to something in your life, they will spot you. The biggest mistake you can do is to feed them, to talk to them and make them believe theyre important. Dont. Let them talk and starve.54. Dont Look People In The EyesEye contact is fundamental for relationships. How do you feel about people who are talking to you while looking in a completely different direction? Well, this is exactly how they feel too about you, without eye contact. Without looking in the eyes of your conversation partner, youre talking to the ghosts in your head. Sooner than you think, youll talk only to them.55. Dont Believe In SignsThe universe is giving you hints. All the time. With patience and trust you can learn how to read them. Its nothing supernatural, just a way of living in the flow, instead of feeling disconnected and powerless. Ignoring the signs its like going to a live concert with your ears clogged. You may not get a cold, but youre also going to miss all the fun.56. Dont TravelStay at home. Dont leave your city, your country, your continent. Dont expose yourself to new situations, to new cultures, to new people. Dont experience the thrills of discovery, dont risk your life among perfect strangers. Without traveling, youre limiting your possibilities and completely screw your life by total and undeniable boredom.57. Dont Read BooksNo. Theyre evil. They can open your mind, challenge your creativity and feed your curiosity. Dont touch them. Reading books can be extremely dangerous for anyone settling for a boring, limited and tasteless life. So, if you plan to totally screw up your life, stay away from books. In some occasions, they alone can change your life completely.58. Live by AssumptionsDont verify what they tell you or what you think its true. Just assume its right. Living by assumptions is a sign of weakness and lack of courage. Have the courage to face the things and find out the truth. If you dont do that, your reality will be affected the same way a house is affected by a faulty row of bricks. At the next earthquake, it will crumble.59. Be ShyDont express yourself because you fear other people reactions. Shyness is a social disease. And, as any other disease, it may be cured. If you think this is how you are and you cant be changed, youre letting your shyness to control your life, your opportunities, your relationships. It takes courage to use courage, so all you have to do is the first step.60. Live By HabitSpend your life on autopilot. Dont get out of routine. Create a new habit for everything in your life, from eating to making love. And then give your consciousness away to thosehabits. Live outside new challenges. Sleepwalk from the second you wake up to the moment you go to bed. And you wont even recognize how screwed you are.61. Avoid MistakesChose the fool proof way. Dont try something that could potentially lead to a mistake. Because, you know, your position may be compromised, or your career could suffer from it. Mistakes are in fact disguised opportunities. It feels bad when youre wrong, I know, but it feels even worse to realize that you didnt learn anything from it.62. Pay Yourself LastSacrifice your time, money and energy in a totally screwed altruism. Ignore your own needs and try to fulfill others needs just to receive some appreciation. You cant really give something unless you have it first. Becoming an altruist when you dont even have your own house or income is a sign of delusion. Pay yourself first.63. HateUse all your energy to hate others. Because they have a different skin color, a different religion or just more resources than you. Hating uses the same process as love: it connects you with somebody else. But at the end of the connection hates puts destruction, while love puts union. Whenever youre hating, youre using your own power against you.64. Be A PerfectionistTry to reach perfection instead of just being better. In the process, screw up everybody around, including yourself. Perfection is a mind concept, it doesnt exist in real life. Perfection has everything you have, minus real life. All perfect things are dead things. So, aiming to be perfect in what you do or want to become is a dead end too.65. Sabotage YourselfSelf-sabotage is more powerful than you think. It works in such a subtle way that you may even take it as a normal act of thinking. Whenever youre close to a big achievement, watch your selfsabotaging reactions: are you ashamed of success? Afraid of it? Do you think successful people are bad? Congratulations, youre sabotaging yourself.66. Waste Your Power On Useless StuffOk, you gathered enough power to do something great, but instead, you waste it on meaningless stuff. Welcome to the world of shallowness. Having power is not enough, you got to double it with consciousness and vision. Without these ingredients, your power will most likely diverge and decay, aimlessly pointed at things with no meaning.67. Be UngratefulLike in just avoiding saying thank you, or Im glad we did this. Gratitude is a magnet, it attracts a lot of what youre associating it with. When you dont use gratitude, you let things floating away in a Brownian motion, totally random and out of your control. On the contrary, when you experiment gratitude, you let things youre grateful for flow your way. Is that simple.68. Think Bad About YourselfInstead of repeating to yourself that you are unable to do this or that, you may as well shoot yourself in the foot. Just by thinking youre no good, youll actually become a person who is not good. You literally are what you think about you. The good news is you can dissolve those negative opinions. All you have to do is to first admit you have them.69. Fake It Till You Make ItThere is this advice of being in sync with what you want, largely based on the Law of Attraction. While this is certainly a valuable approach, faking your desired goal will not bring it closer, on the contrary. What you should do is to try to feel comfortable in the skin of you new you, not to pretend youre the new you. The Universe always knows when youre lying.70. Dont Manage Your TimeTime is the only non-renewable resource you have. Not managing your time is almost as bad as not managing your money. Only worse . You can make more money later, but you cant create more time. Each and every second you have is a new chance. But if you dont stay on top of your schedule, somebody else will use your chances.71. Solve The Wrong ProblemsKeep your focus on the wrong side of the problem. Like in how much you can save, instead of how much you can really gain. Inverse evaluation is one of the trickiest things in our life. We tend to evaluate a thing by its opposite. Like being happy when we eliminate 2 kilos of trash from our house, instead of just keeping it clean day by day.72. Be JudgmentalCriticize constantly. Focus on the bad stuff. Dont even think to bring in the bright side of the things. Disapprove, be negative, hypercritical and deprecating. Reject any trace of appreciation or balance. In just a few weeks, your life will be totally screwed. Who wants around a guy who is never, ever able to see the full half of the glass? Nobody.73. ComplainAbout everything, everywhere, every time you get a chance. Complaining is another powerful magnet, just like gratitude. But instead of attracting the good stuff, it attracts its subject. Basically, the more you complain about something, the more of that something you are getting. If you want to fail at something, start by complaining about it.74. Accept CrapInstead of just rejecting the thing you dont want, take it up. Instead of making your point, expressing your desires and throwing away everything you dont really want, accept crap. And youll get it. Most of the time the only reason we get crap in our lives is our express authorization: please, give me more. Sometimes, all you have to do is to say stop it.75. Take It PersonallyLike you are the center of the Universe and everybody has something against you. Take it personally at the weather, at the politics, at the economical crisis, at everything. Just move forward with this mindset and everything around you will actually start to have something against you. Dont take more pun than youre expected to.76. Dont LaughBe serious. Grave and sober. Dont smile and, by all means, dont allow yourself to laugh. Because laughing will bring down your walls, it will crush your entire black edifice of a stony-faced, serious person, preoccupied with important issues. Not laughing is the stupidest thing you can do to yourself. Laugh is for free, everything else in life is not.77. EnvyLook up to everything other people have and feel bad you dont have it too. Envy their lifestyle, their richness, their freedom. If possible let them know that as often as you can. Envy is a form of worship: only instead of praising its object its diminishing its performer. Every time you envy somebody youre in fact lowering yourself.78. Leave The Passion OutDont put your heart in your life. Leave it away and try to get on with cold calculus or with bare logic. Leave the passion out of your life and become an empty carcass, walking only by the law of physics. Passion is the only thing that can completely shift your life. Leaving passion out of your life is living a life of a walking dead man.79. Be A FollowerDont start anything by yourself. Dont do anything without asking permission. Be a follower and always look for somebody ready to carry your responsibility too. Thats a perfect way to live a dull, gray and futureless life. Being a follower will amputate your bravery and guts, leaving you at the mercy of some mediocre role model.80. React Instead Of Act On ThingsBe always a second late. Dont initiate. Dont start. React instead of acting. This attitude, although providing a little bit of safety, will put you at the mercy of events. Too often, people who are acting instead of reacting are successful people. And those who are barely responding to stimulus, instead of jumping ahead, are the self-proclaimed victims.81. Live Outside The Present MomentIn the past or in the future, doesnt really matter. Just stay away from the present moment. That will be enough to live a life of no meaning, always in search of something that doesnt really exists. The present is the only time we got. The past is just a mark in the sand and the future an uncertain promise. All you have is now. Dont waste it.82. Be AveragishNot too much, not too little. Not too talkative, not too silent. Be in the middle. Talk in the middle. Live in the middle. An averagish life is a wasted life. You dont really live, youre barely acknowledging a statistical model of the reality. Theres not such thing like the average in real life. Youre either up to something, either not. Chose to be exceptional.83. Be RevengefulWait for the right moment and pay back that insult. Carefully plan and implement your revenge. And youll soon become a predictable and much too easy to manipulate machine, ready to be used by anyone smart enough to push the right buttons. Revenge will never make things even. It will make things worse. Forgive and forget.84. Be ResentfulEven if you dont use revenge, keep some bad vibe about that person who insulted you. Resentment is like drinking poison while waiting for your enemies to die, Nelson Mandela said. And I totally agree with it. No matter at whom your negative emotion is directed, holding it long enough inside yourself will eventually screw up your life.85. Dont Create ValueDo something that is either repeating somebody elses work, either of no use for anyone. Do things that are not valuable. Be a copy cat or a useless clerk. Creating genuine value is at the core of our life purpose. If you chose to create value for others, as small as that value might be, you managed to be in for something. Youre not screwed yet.86. Avoid ConfrontationDont you ever confront your fears, your opponents or your critics. Leave, run, hide and dont face your phobias. Avoid your rivals. Thats one way to lose the most valuable feed-back you can get. Confrontation requires courage, thats right, but without it, youll never really know what are you up to. Living only in potential means not living at all.87. When Going Through Hell, Stop WalkingAnd youll get stuck forever. Every time you bump into some hard times, just keep going, as Winston Churchill said. If you stop, youll get sucked. Every hard time you encounter is a test, as undeserved at it might seem. The only way to get out from it is to keep going, otherwise youll get burned. Even hell can be passed, if only you keep going and dont stop.88. Dont Clean Up Your LensesYour life could be blurred at times. Happens. Your life lenses got stuck or you have some dirt on them. If you keep them dirty, you wont change your perspective and will keep stumble until you fall. Cleaning up your lenses should be a habit for anyone who really wants to adapt to change. Because the only real thing we have in this life is change.89. Fall For Free StuffThere is no such thing as a free lunch, they say, and they say that for a reason. Nothing really worth having is free in this world. We tend to value things based on how much we spend for them. Hence, a freebie will be worthless. Anything presented as free is in fact a trap, a trap which will require more from you than you are willing to pay.90. Race Against OthersThe only real competition is with you. The others may serve as a comparison at times, but you can only win against yourself. Chasing your goals the same way dogs are chasing mechanical rabbits at a dog race is just stupid. Once the race is over, what would you chase next? Do you really want to live a life of a racing dog?91. Be An Information JunkieLive by the news, sleep by the news, wake up by the news. Information is supposed to be useful. How much are you really going to use out of what youre exposing yourself to? Being an information junkie will give you the illusion of control. Youll be much better if you master the art of ignoring, instead of practicing information overload.92. Talk More Than You Have ToAnd piss off everyone else in the process. Talking should be a way to connect, to express your feelings and creativity. Talking too much, as harmless as it can seem, could really cut off from your social circle, not to mention that it will shift your focus from what youre doing to what youre talking about, of course. Do more, talk less.93. Be LateAt your job. At your social gatherings. At informal meetings. Show up later and youll slowly get out of touch with everything else around you. Being punctual is an art. Its not too much about reliability and respect, as it is for spotting and grabbing opportunities. A belated person will never catch an opportunity: hell be there too late, of course.94. Accept FrustrationYes, life can be a bitch. Yes, it can make you want to cry out loud. But theres no need to give in to frustration. If something went bad, acknowledge and move on. Frustration is from the same family with regret and share one very nasty family trait: it will dry you up and puts you in a no mans land territory. Dont be frustrated it went wrong, be happy it happened.95. Reject JoyDont enjoy because joy is a silly way to behave. There are people who are making a living out of rejecting joy. Because its a useless emotion. Because it could make you vulnerable. Yes, it will make you vulnerable. But being vulnerable is the only way to really experiment life in all its dimensions. Life is not safe. But its full of joy.96. Give In To PainAt some point in your life, youre going to be hit hard. We all do. Pain is unavoidable. Butsuffering is optional. If you give in to pain, youre creating an attachment and from this attachment suffering will grow. I know its way more difficult to do this than it is to write about it. Ive been there too. And I really know that suffering is just another choice.97. Be JealousDo like many other people and think jealousy is a form of love. And totally screw up your life in the process. Jealousy is a variation of the control freak syndrome, with a little bit of panic disorder. Controlling the one you love or limiting his or her choices by constantly nagging him or her, will have only one possible end: youll get dumped.98. Think Happiness Is A GoalHappiness is never a goal. It cant be your new car, your new house, your new career. It cant be your family, your kids, your friends. Happiness is a process. Its a continuous state of mind. Whenever you step out of this state of mind, you transform happiness into an object. And objects are inconsistent, fluctuant and unstable. Happiness is the journey, not the destination.99. PanicGive your power to circumstances. Whenever something is out of your normal routine, just panic. Lose your head, follow the crowd and think the world will collapse. Panic is the ultimate form of submission. You let some unexpected events to control your response. Yes, unexpected stuff can happen. Be happy: every unpredicted event in your life its an opportunity.100. Dont LoveTurn your soul into a stone. Frost your heart. Dont allow any feeling of love to reach to you. You wont need months to screw up your life when you do this. You wont need weeks, or even days. The moment you forbid love to reach to you, your life will be useless.